Commitment

Last night I suggested "commitment" as the topic of discussion for my reflection group. Of the thrity men and women in attendance, three men commented about the negative aspects of "commitment." Their opinions were in agreement: that commitment should be unneccesary, and was ultimately impossible, since you "never know" what might come up next, or how you might feel.

Isn't that the whole point of commitment?

To vow that you will be true to your word, no matter what? To make a wholehearted promise that you will do what you commit to do, whether circumstances change or whether you feel like it or not?

It struck me as interesting that these same men bragged on having been married numerous times, and that their relationships were the greatest challenge in their lives.

The ideal of "personal moral integrity" has fallen out of fashion in an age where material acquistion, achievement, success and position overshadow the more discreet qualities of our humanity. What appears to be important on the surface hides the deeper substance and dignity of our individuality.

To "make a commitment" is to devote yourself to the purpose which you value. It is to take charge of your own thoughts, urges, feelings and actions under any and all circumstances and regardless of any influences. It is the power of being true to yourself.

The impact that a person of integrity has on others is inestimable. Knowing that you can actually count on someone, that you can trust them completely to do the right thing to the best of their ability provides a sense of security and inspiration to everyone whose lives they touch.

What kind of person do you want to be?

The kind that others respect, admire and rely upon- or someone who can be depended upon when it is convenient for them? When they feel like it?

Every Choice Counts!